Somerset NJ Marriage Counselor Dr Marty Discusses HypnosisPlus.com

Losing Weight Through Hypnosis or Emotional Freedom Technique - Central NJ Therapist Dr Tashman

This video will talk about how loose weight using hypnosis
and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). We have offices in Central NJ, including Somerset, NJ. Reach Dr. Marty Tashman by calling 732-246-8484 or email DrMarty@Comcast.net

Sommerset NJ Marriage Counselor Discusses Jump Start Program for Saving Your Marriage

If you: * are at the brink of ending your relationship. * can't seem to have a discussion with your partner without it ending up in anger. * love your partner but really don't like them.

If you can relate to the any of the three statements above, and
want the best chance or maybe your last chance at turning things
around consider "The Intensive Jumpstart Session".

"The Intensive Jumpstart Session" is a two hour meeting which
can be used to: * go far more deeply into the issues than you would during an initial single meeting. * learn techniques to handle the anger, hurt and hostility that has developed from your incompatibility. * improve your communication with your partner. * understand and redirect the anger & resentment that has developed over a long period of time.

The "The Intensive Jumpstart Session" can make an important difference in getting counseling off to a positive start when time and patience are running out on both sides. We can work on issues that are causing the biggest problems, and tackle them first, and still have time to move along quickly to issues surrounding them.

I have found over the years that these intensive counseling sessions with couples have proven to create a deeper connection over a shorter period of time.

Somerset NJ Marriage Counselor Dr Marty Discusses Infidelity

Dealing with infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences that a couple will ever face. Unfortunately, it is all to common in our society. It is estimated that between 20 and 40% of all marriages have to deal with some form of unfaithfulness.

To help you if you are facing these issues I have included 4 articles that will give you some ideas about this painful area.

1. Early Warning Signs of Infidelity

2. What To Do After Infidelity Has Been Discovered

3. Seven Steps For Healing Infidelity

4. Additional Resources for Dealing with Infidelity

Anger and Fighting Top Threat to Thriving Relationships Says Somerset NJ Counslor Marty Tashman

In a previous blog post, I sighted Anger and Fighting as first on my list of things that stand in the way of having a thriving relationship with our loved ones.

How well do we fight with each other?  Do our fights leave scars that are not easily forgotten or don’t heal at all.

How well do we handle our partner’s anger and our own?  Often times, I will have someone come to me because their partner feels so overwhelmed by their anger that they tell me that they just don’t want to be together any longer.

A question we should really ask ourselves is “What do we hope to accomplish by having this anger?”  Some people believe that it might make the other person change, they may want them to feel the hurt and pain as they do, or even try and control them.

What many people hope is that if the other person knows how angry they are maybe they’ll be different, or maybe they will apologize. Again, it is unusual that heart felt remorse comes from anger. What usually happens is that anger makes the other person more distant, angrier, or just fed up with the situation.

A place to start getting results would be from a calm, secure place that doesn’t attack the other person.  What we often do is blame them.  I have found that blame always generates more anger and counter accusations which only hurts communication. 

When we are angry we need to realize that no matter what the other person does we are responsible for our own anger..  A place to start is to complete the sentence “I am allowing “Jane” to make me angry by telling myself ….. .  Jane may have done the wrong thing but our anger probably won’t change Jane’s behavior or even what she said to you. 

We not only make ourselves angry but in some ways we decide how long we will be angry.  We tell ourselves “I will never forget / forgive Jack for ……,,

It is important to realize that anger hurts the one who holds on to it more than it hurts the person we are angry at.  It takes up our energy, makes us negative, and can even cause us to have physical health problems

How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor in Central New Jersey

What Will Be Covered During Marriage Counseling

I. How To Influence Your Partner.
II. What Causes Most Fights.
III. How To Talk To Your Partner, So that they will really hear you.
IV. Standing Up For Your Self.
V. What to Do When You are Unhappy with How Your Partner is Treating You or with what they are doing
VI. 6 Steps to Getting Together After A Fight.
VII. Improving Your Friendship and Creating Your Future.

Central NJ Marriage Counselor Offers "Thriving Relationship" Test

This article is going to be the first of a series of articles, we will take a look at what some of the problems are.  In the future, I will talk about how to handle these issues effectively.

Let’s start off with a quick test about what you think are the main challenges in order to maintain a good relationship.

Check the issue(s) that you think are stopping you from having a thriving relationship.

Is it learning how to agree on finances?
    
Is it your lack of sexual intimacy?

Is it extended family issues?

Is it falling out of love?

The correct answer is actually none of the above. Yet all of these are issues that couples may struggle with but they are only the symptoms not what I call the “Core Issues”.

In this series, I will discuss the six “Core Issues” which I have listed below:

1. Anger and fighting.
2. Good times.
3. Trust.
4. Communication.
5. Making your partner feel good about him/herself in love and in war.
6.  Defensiveness vs. openness.

More about each of these later.